"Dating is a stage of a romantic relationship in which two people who meet socially, possibly as friends or with the goal to assess each other's suitability as a prospective partner in a more intimate relationship or marriage."
How did I know that "intimacy" would somehow be incorporated into that almost-accurate definition? Let's carefully digest what this actually means.
First things first, sex isn't everything and it doesn't have to be apart of you dating life. In contradiction, dating makes a lot more sense when you eliminate it. But we'll save that for another post and keep in mind, that's my opinion, do you, boo. Dating, ideally, should start off with establishing a friendship. Accurate! Assessing each other to know if this person of interest fits later down the line, another, accurate!
Here's the thing, often times dating can be nerve racking and completely annoying and that's what stage I'm currently in. I'm annoyed AF. If you're like me your expectations are high, you appreciate the small things, and you HATE when he doesn't know how to say hello. But before you even consider dating, here's a short list of things that should be checked off your list:
First things first, sex isn't everything and it doesn't have to be apart of you dating life. In contradiction, dating makes a lot more sense when you eliminate it. But we'll save that for another post and keep in mind, that's my opinion, do you, boo. Dating, ideally, should start off with establishing a friendship. Accurate! Assessing each other to know if this person of interest fits later down the line, another, accurate!
Here's the thing, often times dating can be nerve racking and completely annoying and that's what stage I'm currently in. I'm annoyed AF. If you're like me your expectations are high, you appreciate the small things, and you HATE when he doesn't know how to say hello. But before you even consider dating, here's a short list of things that should be checked off your list:
1. You know how to express yourself
Express your feelings, what you like and don't like, what makes you happy, what pisses you off, what turns you off and so on.
2. Learn how to accept the fact that you're single
Being alone can be excruciating but it's not. It's just one of those things where you don't appreciate it until it's gone. Truth is, you need that time alone for a few reasons. You need that time to love on yourself. You'll start to learn dope things about yourself that you never knew. Like the fact that you actually can throw that ass in a circle, girl who knows.
3. Don't search for him!
...and it's THAT simple. Just don't look, he'll come. Everyone you encounter isn't going to be boyfriend material.
4. Pray about it and get your higher power involved
As I enter my 27th anniversary of living on this earth, I've grown closer to God. I've learned the importance of keeping him involved in pretty much everything in your life. Ask God to help and guide you. Just how you would ask your girlfriends about such-a-such in the infamous group chat, ask God, too. Ask him what he thinks. Ask God this one question, and I ask him this frequently, show me if he's meant to be here or if I'm wasting my time. Works every time because God be knowing.
Express your feelings, what you like and don't like, what makes you happy, what pisses you off, what turns you off and so on.
2. Learn how to accept the fact that you're single
Being alone can be excruciating but it's not. It's just one of those things where you don't appreciate it until it's gone. Truth is, you need that time alone for a few reasons. You need that time to love on yourself. You'll start to learn dope things about yourself that you never knew. Like the fact that you actually can throw that ass in a circle, girl who knows.
3. Don't search for him!
...and it's THAT simple. Just don't look, he'll come. Everyone you encounter isn't going to be boyfriend material.
4. Pray about it and get your higher power involved
As I enter my 27th anniversary of living on this earth, I've grown closer to God. I've learned the importance of keeping him involved in pretty much everything in your life. Ask God to help and guide you. Just how you would ask your girlfriends about such-a-such in the infamous group chat, ask God, too. Ask him what he thinks. Ask God this one question, and I ask him this frequently, show me if he's meant to be here or if I'm wasting my time. Works every time because God be knowing.
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